Hot off the heels of the International Day of Happiness, Jaymee at The Mum Diaries tagged me to share ten reasons to be happy. That’ll be easy, I thought. The problem is… there are so many reasons to be happy that it’s hard to choose. Sure, there are down days when being a parent makes me want to sit in the corner and cry, but on the whole it’s such a rewarding and sweet journey.
Life’s busy and chaotic but here are some of my favourite reasons to be happy.
I never knew what I wanted to do with my life, but I’ve always wanted to be a mum. When I became one in December 2013 my whole world changed overnight. There was a tiny little person depending on me for food, comfort and love. Parenting’s a tough thing and there have been so many challenges along the way, but becoming a mother for the first time was amazing. Being lucky enough to do it for a second time last year was just as beautiful. My two are loud, terrible sleepers and I barely get five minutes to myself but I wouldn’t change them for anything. They’re my world.
One of the things I value most about my life right now is the amount of opportunities there are. When I started blogging I never imagined I’d be pitching to brands (and them saying yes!), being invited on weekends away or launching a range of services. I don’t make very much money at all (certainly not when you take into account my expenses!) but it’s the experience and invaluable moments that make it worth it. I’m SO incredibly grateful for all of the advice, criticism, support and trust that others give and have in me.
I’ve lived by the sea since I was thirteen and for some reason it feels like such a strong part of my personality. I might not visit the beach all that often and it’s been too long since I was on a boat, but I love being near the open water. It makes me endlessly happy. There’s a unique, calming feeling to walking down the prom by the beach and just seeing the river out of my window makes me smile.
Growing up I wasso unconfident. Painfully so. I grew up with what I later found out was social anxiety and struggled hugely to achieve anything if it involved being confident around other people.I don’t know what changed or when, but into my twenties I started to become more confident.
A real turning point for me was when I had Oscar and became a mum – somehow things just clicked. I had to be confident for him and from there it got better and better. Totally life changing, and it’s something I’m so thankful for. I’m beyond happy to feel confident in myself most days now.
This definitely deserved a spot on my 10 reasons to be happy list. I’m not completely there yet – and wonder if I’ll ever feel completely balanced and in control – but finding a comfortable balance between all my roles brings such calm. I’ve realised you can be mum, boss, employee, partner, friend, blogger, and everything. You don’t always have to choose. While the constant adjusting trying to fit the right fit can get tiring it’s really rewarding to create the life you want to live.
Life doesn’t have to be complicated. I find that I get overwhelmed if I have too many appointments, visitors or to-do’s in one week – so I started spreading them out a bit more. The same goes for objects and clutter. I feel so much happier with clear surfaces, simple routines and less ‘stuff’ filling spaces in my life.
I wrote a short post about doing minimalism my way, if it sounds like your kind of thing.
Finding my tribe
Calling it a tribe feels a bit cringe, and a bit too exclusive, but the idea’s there. I’ve been endlessly lucky to have found a group of women who are the best laughs, support and friends ever. They’ve helped me in countless ways, cheered me on, given me perspective and made me a better person. I just wished we lived closer to each other.We all share a love of blogging too, so go ahead and show Ami, Chantal, Faye, Hannah, Jade and Stacie some love.
As well as my closest friends I’ve found so many other lovely people too, especially other parents and bloggers.It makes me so happy to have found places and people who make me feel welcome. I had none of that growing up and it’s such a gift to have now.
Yess! While I don’t have the most freedom ever (does anyone with kids?) I’m grateful for every piece of freedom I do have. The freedom to make decisions about my life, career and family. The freedom to decorate my home, to explore, to treat the people I love every now and again. And while there’s few things I’d love more than to have a nice house with a garden there’s something very freeing about not being tied to a mortgage as well. Being free to make choices – happy choices – is amazing.
It’s not the most grounded reason on my list of reasons to be happy, but cake deserves a mention. It seems to make most things better and it’s a feature of some of my favourite celebrations. I just love a bit of buttercream frosting or a slice of chocolate fudge cake. It might be a little thing but that’s okay, because sometimes the little things can be the greatest sources of happiness.
I should probably have started by saying this isn’t in any order, oops. And so, lastly, one of the best reasons to be happy is love. Being in love is an amazing feeling, something that I think gets better and stronger as time goes on. There’s days where I’m tired and grumpy and my other half deals with it graciously. Sometimes it’s easy to get lost in life with kids but there’s no greater happiness than the kind you get from love – whether that’s from a partner, your kids, your family or your friends.
What are ten things that make YOU happy?
Share in the comments or leave a link to your blog or social media post about it :) I’m tagging Alex at Better Together Home to share her happy things next.